The other time I had an eating disorder that you don’t know about
Restricting, bingeing and purging had happened to me in my life once before, many years ago.
Tag Archives: self-love
Self-love is not the answer
The problem is we believe self-love is the answer, the goal, the destination and the meaning of life. It’s not.
What if there was no outcome, no result, no goal?
What if I went to the gym just because I liked going to the gym? Were there good things about training I had overlooked in the past? Could I enjoy it for its own sake rather than as a means to an end?
The Prime Directive of a Love Ninja
Back at the beginning of 2010 I found myself emotionally entangled in a physical relationship with a man who wasn’t my husband. I was on a journey of spiritual transformation, I had declared my life’s purpose to be authenticity and here I was telling lies to everyone. I lied to my husband, I lied to my friends, and I lied in my blog posts.
We’re all like you
You are the person who bears the same burden of life as everyone else. Perhaps you think there is something wrong with you because everyone else seems to be so much more together than you are, but we’re all sharing the same secrets.
self-love = safe | love = risk
Loving someone else is risky and dangerous. You reveal the tender unprotected parts of you leaving them exposed. You have no control over what’s going to happen. Loving another person without knowing the outcome is scary.
Tired of stupid unrealistic self help babble?
The Love Matrix e-book is written exactly like my blog posts ~ only way longer and much more personal than anything I’ve ever revealed before. The only way to get your hands on it is to trust me with your email address.
I need your advice (please)
Over the past several months I’ve talked with a lot of you about what you’re struggling with. You’ve told me that you sometimes feel like you’re not good enough, that the fear of failure paralyses you and stops you from doing the things you love, and that you’re afraid others will find you lacking in some terrible way if you reveal your true thoughts and feelings.
Why the goal of *losing weight* is fundamentally flawed
Please don’t set yourself the goal of “losing weight” because it’s a fundamentally flawed idea. Choose instead to give love, receive love and be love and the shape of your body won’t matter.
Play Hurt
There will never be a day when the thoughts in my head don’t tell me I’m not good enough, skinny enough or young enough. I can go around pretending otherwise but it wouldn’t be true.
I don’t care what anyone else thinks (but actually I do)
Interdependence is what we crave in our lives. We begin from a place where we positively meet our own needs and through the doorway of self-love and respect we find others like us to love and cherish.
Who is the Thirteen-Year-Old You?
The memories of our school days and childhood are never complete. We remember small snippets of stories. The smell of leather bags and chalk dust, the taste of stale milk, the sound of the bell and the touch of a note passed under a wooden desk. We recall being teased for having the wrong kind of lunchbox but we also remember that life was simple, innocent and unhurried.
Seeing myself in the pages of a book
Karen’s book “After” isn’t another book about what to do and what not to do, how to lose weight or how to never diet again, it’s about her journey of self discovery. If you are interested in what it is like to go from dieting to trusting your body and loving yourself then this book is for you.