5 Tell-Tale Signs Your Partner Might Have a Mental Condition
Knowing what lies ahead can be a huge asset in keeping your relationship strong when you are faced with the possibility of a mental illness such as schizophrenia.
Category Archives: Head | Mindfulness
You Can’t Write That
The man was tall and broad chested. At the end of his bulging arm he waved a piece of paper. “I’m an expert,” he shouted, “and you can’t write that. Your words make it worse. People need love not judgment.” He tore the paper into shreds and dropped it on the floor. ≡ The woman was… Read More
Searching for Fullness
Women seem to have the hardest time with overeating, dieting and obsessing about food. Perhaps the reason for this is that most women have a feminine essence which desires the sensation of fullness. A masculine essence, on the other hand, it all about finding peace and nothingness and is illustrated in their need to zone out… Read More
Suicide • Why Nobody Loves Me Isn’t a Good Enough Reason to Kill Yourself
When I wrote 10 Things You Should Know Before You Kill Yourself, I spoke from the only perspective I know — my experience as the wife of a man who took his own life. A lot of people respond negatively to that post claiming their situation is different because they are alone and will be… Read More
Marked in Ink • a Search for Immortality
On my left wrist, scratched into my skin is a red heart with angel’s wings. I had it done on my 45th birthday at The Illustrated Man. It was the last birthday I spent with my late husband. His birthday present to me was a fountain fashioned from a vase and a bowl, cobbled together to… Read More
Why no one escapes childhood intact
As part of the discussion around legalising same-sex marriage in Australia, an American woman named Katy Faust has been playing the ‘rights of the children’ card. She wants us to believe all children need a biological mother and father to have a ‘good’ childhood. Aside from the fact it is an absurd notion, the argument has a… Read More
Setting and Enforcing your Personal Boundaries
Personal boundaries are filters that protect us from behaviours we find unacceptable. A personal boundary is a rule YOU say cannot be broken without consequence. Healthy people have all sorts of personal boundaries (rules) that help insulate them from others’ negative words and actions. We cannot control someone’s thoughts and opinions but we can limit the amount of exposure we… Read More
Talking Back to the Voice in my Head
The voice in my head tells me that I’m not good enough, that I could do better, if only I worked on being more loving, compassionate, patient, giving … (insert your word here). And there are people who seem to agree with the thoughts that come to me in the middle of the night. And… Read More
Dear Survivors • a letter to the women of the Duggar tragedy
Dear Survivors One of my friends once wrote that everyone has at least three disasters and one apocalypse in their lives. I don’t know you, but I’m almost certain the sexual abuse you suffered twelve years ago was your apocalypse. I’m guessing you might be going through another one right now having your lives dissected in public. I won’t say… Read More
The Silent Treatment • being ignored or being spared?
Every few days I scour the pages of seek.com looking for a job. It is a bit like looking for a date on RSVP. I filter out the ones that are too far away, too boring and too conservative. My days of wearing a pencil skirt and blazer are over. But unlike internet dating where… Read More
U is for Universe • #atozchallenge
Although I don’t believe in the concept of God as a supernatural being with an interest in the thoughts and action of human beings, I do believe in a collective consciousness. The simplest term to describe this, is to call it the Universe. I see it as the amalgamation of the spirit in all living… Read More
T is for Trauma • #atozchallenge
I read in a book once about the difference between a traumatic event and a terrible one. I’ve spent the last couple of hours trying to find the exact words, but to no avail. I thought it was in this book about a chaplain whose job it is to notify people of the death of… Read More
Q is for Querulous • #atozchallenge
I‘m not sure if it’s age, rampant hormones, or too much time on my own, but these days I find myself becoming more and more querulous. Querulous is a glorious word. It means cantankerous, cross, dissatisfied, grouchy, hard to please, irritable, whining and touchy. Although I swan around on the internet, dispensing love and happiness with my tiny, twinkly… Read More