I’ve come to the conclusion that I am not normal, and the rules of science don’t apply to me the way they do for everyone else. I’m a metabolism mutant! Excess fat on my body is a result of a huge range of things going on in my life. Here is what it looks like in a diagram.
All these years you’ve been trying and trying to lose weight with the only tool that you have — a hammer. You try hitting the screw with the head of the hammer and using the other end to prise the wood from the wall, but you have made little progress. You are tired, frustrated and on the verge of tears.
A strong and yet supple sense of who you are encourages self-reliance and autonomy. It means you are confident that the answers lie inside you instead of with someone else. It allows you to lay open your heart and fall into the heart of another without losing yourself. It lets you love your dark places without fear that they will drive people away.
Now I know this secret I don’t have to worry about my weight any more. I don’t crave croissants and chocolate. I can go all day without eating or eat all day and it makes no difference to the scales. My clothes always fit and my body is in proportion without odd lump and bumps.
Being a feminist doesn’t mean that you have to inhabit your masculine essence. On the contrary. It means that the feminine essence is to be celebrated as beautiful and precious. It is stripping away this belief that living from our hearts and identifying emotionally with the world is less important than being indestructible and driven.
No matter how flat your stomach is, no matter how large the gap between your thighs, no matter how much your hip bones are visible, you will never feel good naked if you don’t feel good with your vulnerability.
Jeremy and I used to be in love. He was handsome, funny and charming. But people grow apart and things change. We broke up as elegantly as we could. We weren’t good for each other so we went our separate ways. I knew that there were other women that Jeremy would be perfect for, just… Read More
Genpo Roshi (Dennis Merzel) is a former Zen Buddhist who teaches the practice of Big Mind. I watched one of his videos last night which was a process that unpicks all the different “voices” we have as part of the self, what they do for us and why they need to be heard. The process… Read More
Destination : I am searching for happiness Journey : I am happy Destination : I will be in the best shape of my life Journey : My body is perfect right here and now for this moment in my life Destination : I will get married and live happily ever after Journey : I am… Read More
A turned-on woman rejects force in favor of real power. She educates rather than emasculates. Rather than withdraw, avoid, judge, and bludgeon, she enters and transforms. She knows that she is responsible for preparing the world to receive her. Rather than taking the easy way out and demanding her freedom, she shows others how they will benefit… Read More
→ art by Kristin Noelle After I finished writing yesterday’s post on the three types of deep love strategies between couples, it occurred to me that we could apply the same principles to self-love. A quick refresher on how to work out your deep love strategy. Answer this question : In order to know you are… Read More
“Seek not to cut the root of phenomena, but to cut the root of the mind. If you have to cross a field covered with thorns, and you try to cover the field with leather, you won’t succeed. It is far simpler to cover your feet with leather.” ~ Sogyal Rinpoche, Tibetan Buddhist master There are… Read More
[This entry is a re-post] Imagine the person you would most like to be, the version of you that is living the life you always imagined. This person has somehow found the solution to all the challenges you face right now. You don’t know how, but you can tell that she has her shit together… Read More