The trees were knotted and scarred from years of neglect, the young plants were still too small and fragile and her own design was amateur and inferior compared to the professionally landscaped yards. The faults and flaws were obvious and ugly and she wondered how she could have ever overlooked them.
No matter how flat your stomach is, no matter how large the gap between your thighs, no matter how much your hip bones are visible, you will never feel good naked if you don’t feel good with your vulnerability.
Jeremy and I used to be in love. He was handsome, funny and charming. But people grow apart and things change. We broke up as elegantly as we could. We weren’t good for each other so we went our separate ways. I knew that there were other women that Jeremy would be perfect for, just… Read More
Genpo Roshi (Dennis Merzel) is a former Zen Buddhist who teaches the practice of Big Mind. I watched one of his videos last night which was a process that unpicks all the different “voices” we have as part of the self, what they do for us and why they need to be heard. The process… Read More
Destination : I am searching for happiness Journey : I am happy Destination : I will be in the best shape of my life Journey : My body is perfect right here and now for this moment in my life Destination : I will get married and live happily ever after Journey : I am… Read More
A turned-on woman rejects force in favor of real power. She educates rather than emasculates. Rather than withdraw, avoid, judge, and bludgeon, she enters and transforms. She knows that she is responsible for preparing the world to receive her. Rather than taking the easy way out and demanding her freedom, she shows others how they will benefit… Read More
→ art by Kristin Noelle After I finished writing yesterday’s post on the three types of deep love strategies between couples, it occurred to me that we could apply the same principles to self-love. A quick refresher on how to work out your deep love strategy. Answer this question : In order to know you are… Read More
“Seek not to cut the root of phenomena, but to cut the root of the mind. If you have to cross a field covered with thorns, and you try to cover the field with leather, you won’t succeed. It is far simpler to cover your feet with leather.” ~ Sogyal Rinpoche, Tibetan Buddhist master There are… Read More
[This entry is a re-post] Imagine the person you would most like to be, the version of you that is living the life you always imagined. This person has somehow found the solution to all the challenges you face right now. You don’t know how, but you can tell that she has her shit together… Read More
Let’s face it, even though we love ourselves, there are parts of our bodies that we are happier revealing more than others. Me, I have great boobs. In fact, in my brief dating period between husband and Duckfish, one guy got the flick because he commented “I’m not really a boob man.” I have an… Read More
People get quite heated over the terms we use to describe our relationship with food. It is like the label on a religion. Everyone is acknowledging a higher power, but we fight over whether it is God, Buddha, Mohamed, Jesus, the Universe, Spirit or the magic fairies at the bottom of the garden [which is where… Read More
There is a secret strangeness that lies beyond the world of appearances.
My husband and I were married for fifteen years. The passion had long ago disappeared from our relationship (if it had ever really been there at all). We were lucky if we had sex once every three months. In the beginning I blamed it on the Depo Provera I was using for contraception. After I… Read More
