Category Archives: Heart | Love & Romance
8 Sure-Fire Ways to Destroy Your Relationship
8 Sure-Fire Ways to Destroy Your Relationship is written by Benjamin Ritter, personal and executive consultant. No matter how many times you fall in love, there’s nothing worse than feeling that you caused the destruction of your own relationship. One of the best ways to minimize these feelings is to know that you did everything… Read More
Three Things Destroying Your Relationship
Whether you have just started dating someone or have been in a relationship for some time, there are three things you are doing that are destroying your relationship. And the worst part is, these behaviours are so common, you might not even know you’re doing them and the damage they are causing. 1. Competitive Urges When your date,… Read More
25 Ways to Keep the Magic Alive in Your Relationship
1. Play dress up 2. Pretend you are strangers and flirt in a bar 3. Go away for the weekend 4. Do something physically scary together – white water rafting, abseiling etc. 5. Send dirty text messages 6. Have boudoir photos taken and give them to your partner 7. Sleep naked 8. Have sex anywhere… Read More
10 Simple Steps to a Healthy Relationship
10 Ways to Leave Your Lover
The space between knowing a relationship is over, and actually leaving can be a yawning chasm of fear and uncertainty. If you’ve taken the test, Should I Stay or Should I Go? and you realise it’s time to leave, what are your next steps? I don’t claim to be an expert in leaving relationships, because… Read More
A Valentine’s Day Dirge
Valentine’s Day sucks. Which may sound odd coming from someone who ceaselessly praises love and sex, but it is true. I am not a fan. My mother and father were married in a small Baptist Church on Valentine’s Day in 1959. They are no longer together. They are still technically married but my father now lives in a… Read More
Don’t Settle for Comfortable • Seek Love
I spent a long time thinking relationships should be the variety my parents have — a polite, comfortable, solid, long-term, come hell or high water kind of love. When I got married I thought I was signing up for one of those kinds of relationships. We were friends, we lived in the same house, we… Read More
Making Your Second Marriage (or Relationship) Better than the First
Some folk leave their marriage or long-term relationship with elegance and grace. Some of us have catastrophic break ups that leave us cowering under the covers for months, if not years. When we move on to a new relationship, we bring with us a truck load of heavy baggage. And as our new relationship turns… Read More
Why I’ll Never Be a Sex Coach & Why You Don’t Need One
Sex and relationship coaches are a dime a dozen. They have slick websites, gorgeously styled graphics and flattering head-shots. They are usually one of those beautiful people who could probably still look attractive after being drenched in an unexpected rain storm and then falling in a muddy puddle. Although I don’t fit the ‘beautiful people’ category, I have… Read More
Sexual Differences Between Men & Women You Might Not Know About
In general terms (taking into account the wide range of human experiences), there is a huge difference between the way men and women view sexual intimacy. Most women need to feel loved before they are ready to get sexy with a man. Most men see sex as an expression of love and don’t feel truly… Read More
How to Love a Broken-Hearted Woman
They say that being grown-up means you have survived at least three disasters and one apocalypse. Quite often, that apocalypse involves a broken heart. There are very few women venturing into love the second (or third or fourth…) time around who don’t have deep emotional scars. They are a paradox of strength and vulnerability. But they… Read More
My Boyfriend is Having an Online Relationship
I walk into the room and whatever is on my boyfriend’s laptop screen fades to grey. He looks at me sheepishly. “Looking at porn, again?” I ask, laughing. He shakes his head. “No,” he says. “An email from an old girlfriend. I haven’t spoken to her in years.” “Carry on,” I say, kissing him on… Read More