Sex is fun. Sex is energizing. Sex can make or break a relationship. But why is sex so important to our love lives? What is it about the carnal act that keeps the flames of romance burning bright?
1) Sex creates intimacy
Sex does not just allow you and your partner to bond physically. Sex also helps forge emotional intimacy. It is the most intimate of acts, and choosing to do it, with the same person on a regular basis, keeps the relationship strong.
2) Sex is a way to have fun together
Few things are more fun than sex and the happiest couples have fun together. Sex comes in many varieties. It can serious, tender, silly, playful, exciting, and so much more. It can even be all these characteristics at once.
Having sex gives you a chance to let loose and be creative. The two of you can have fun crafting a sexual routine that makes both of you happy.
3) Sex reduces stress
Sex, especially sex that results in orgasm, lowers stress. It is no secret that stress can wreak havoc on a relationship. When a couple is stressed out, they may not interact with each other in the healthiest way. They might take their stress out on each other, and begin to drift apart.
With sex happening on the regular, you will both be doing your part to keep those nasty stress hormones at bay.
4) You will get to know each other better
When you have sex with your partner, you will be getting to know each other on a much deeper level. This is why sex is sometimes used as a marker of a serious relationship. After we have had sex with someone, we feel more connected to them.
We know them better. We know things that cannot be spoken, but they are there nonetheless. We know how they sigh or groan in the throes of ecstasy. We know if their eyes are bashful, of if they hold a glint of mischievousness, during the first moments of foreplay. Sex is a way to get to know the most private and primal part of a person.
5) Sex improves communication
Sex involves a myriad of different forms of communication. Some of it is verbal, but a good deal of it also happens via body language, facial expressions, and all of the other subtle ways that human beings communicate sexually.
If you are able to communicate your desires clearly and assertively in the bedroom, you will be able to ask for a raise with the same confidence.
6) Sex reminds us to take care of our partner’s needs
The symbolism of sex is truly beautiful. It is a coming together of two people, working to bring pleasure to each other, and by extension, bring pleasure to themselves. In order for great sex to happen, both people must care about their partner’s needs.
Both people must find out what their partner desires and be accepting of those desires.
Sex is a tangible reminder that a relationship means creating a comfortable space for the other person, and at times, putting off our own pleasure, so that we can give it to them.
Relationships are a dance of cooperation, collaboration, and sacrifice.