I had an affair and I'm not ashamed

I had an affair and I’m not ashamed

If I had been born at a different time you might have stoned me, or forced me to wear a scarlet letter upon my dress.…

when self love doesnt work

Why your self-love efforts aren’t working

After I finished writing yesterday’s post on the three types of love strategies between a couple, it occurred to me that the same principles apply…

why your attempt at love are failing and what to do about it

Why your attempts at love are failing (and what to do about it)

How do you know someone loves you? No really, how do you know? Can you remember a time when you felt totally loved? When was…

The Blogging Sisterhood • Celebrating 1000 Posts

In the control panel of my blog, the counter for the number of posts sits at 999. I hesitate to write the 1,000th post because…

why my childhood was shit and so was yours

Why no one escapes childhood intact

As part of the discussion around legalising same-sex marriage in Australia, an American woman named Katy Faust has been playing the ‘rights of the children’ card.…

How to make a woman's blood run hot

How to Make a Woman’s Blood Run Hot

I have experienced first-hand what it means to be with a man who I love emotionally, mentally and physically and there is no way I…

setting and enforcing your personal boundaries

Setting and Enforcing your Personal Boundaries

Personal boundaries are filters that protect us from behaviours we find unacceptable. A personal boundary is a rule YOU say cannot be broken without consequence. Healthy people…

How to guarantee your posts are shared on social media

How to Guarantee Your Posts are Shared on Social Media

I have been implementing a new social media strategy which focuses on sharing the work of others, especially on Twitter. I love reading your posts, articles…

talking back to the voice in my head

Talking Back to the Voice in my Head

The voice in my head tells me that I’m not good enough, that I could do better, if only I worked on being more loving,…

Should I Stay or Should I Go - when it's time to leave a relationsip

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

I used to be a master of distraction (weight loss was my favourite diversion) so it took me a long to realise my marriage had disintegrated while…

Online Dating - how to survive and enjoy the first date

Online Dating • the First Date

It was late and I was just going to bed when I received an email from Jen. The subject was “HELP” with a million exclamation marks following…

Midlife isn't a downward spiral to the grave, it's a time of freedom and awakening.

7 Things No One Tells You About Your Fifties

The only thing more talked about on women’s blogs than children is The Change. Somewhere around your fifties, you stop having your period and start…

customise stock images

7 Simple Ways to Make Stock Photos Look Unique

You can find a whole world of beautiful free stock images on the web these days on sites like Pexels and Pixabay , but sometimes…

A Woman’s Essence • Replanting Trees

Women are like trees. As they grow in years they also grow in their power to provide shelter and to live in full bloom. Some…

planting lavender

The Birthday • planting lavender

The smell was overwhelming. Not the sharp sting of hospital bleach, as I had expected, but a sickly sweet lavender smell that clung to the…

image optimisation - making the most of your images on social media

Image Optimisation • making the most of your images on social media

When I blog, I usually spend more time finding and formatting a photo than I do writing the post. I pay careful attention to my…

dear survivors duggar tragedy

Dear Survivors • a letter to the women of the Duggar tragedy

Dear Survivors One of my friends once wrote that everyone has at least three disasters and one apocalypse in their lives. I don’t know you,…

the silent treatment

The Silent Treatment • being ignored or being spared?

Every few days I scour the pages of seek.com looking for a job. It is a bit like looking for a date on RSVP. I…

I know what I want

I May Not Know What Every Woman Wants in Bed but I Know What I Want

I’ve been blaming my changing tastes in the bedroom on my midlife hormones, but to be honest, I’ve been this way for a long time. You…

xyz is for the end

XYZ is for The End • #atozchallenge

April is my least favourite month – the month where there are more bad things to remember than good ones. I should have known undertaking…

w is for writing

W is for Writing • #atozchallenge

For a writer, aside from blogging, I haven’t been doing much writing lately. Now that my principle procrastination tool has been taken away from me…

v is for vision

V is for Vision • #atozchallenge

I’ve often wondered if all the hours I spent reading under the blankets with a torch when I was a kid contributed to my bad…

u is for universe

U is for Universe • #atozchallenge

Although I don’t believe in the concept of God as a supernatural being with an interest in the thoughts and action of human beings, I…

t is for trauma

T is for Trauma • #atozchallenge

I read in a book once about the difference between a traumatic event and a terrible one. I’ve spent the last couple of hours trying…

s-is-for-sexuality

S is for Sexuality • #atozchallenge

I was taught at church that having sexual desires and/or attracting sexual desire was a sin. They gave it a special name — the lust of…

r-is-for-rain

R is for Rain • #atozchallenge

It’s been raining since Monday. A low pressure system off the coast has been beating down on us relentlessly, bringing with it winds gusting up…

q-is-for-querulous

Q is for Querulous • #atozchallenge

I‘m not sure if it’s age, rampant hormones, or too much time on my own, but these days I find myself becoming more and more querulous.…

the-practice-of-self-love

The Practice of Self Love • #1000speak

Art is a practice, medicine is a practice, and architecture is a practice. Photography, painting, meditation, dance, writing, and yoga is a practice. What makes these particular…

p-is-for-piano

P is for Piano • #atozchallenge

My childhood pastime of choice was ballet. I started lessons with Miss McAlpine at a studio above a Chinese Restaurant in New Plymouth when I was…

o-is-for-orgasm

O is for Orgasm • #atozchallenge

Unlike other days, it didn’t take me long to come up with a word starting with O. Orgasms are a subject near and dear to…