Online Dating - how to survive and enjoy the first date

Online Dating • the First Date

It was late and I was just going to bed when I received an email from Jen. The subject was “HELP” with a million exclamation marks following…

Midlife isn't a downward spiral to the grave, it's a time of freedom and awakening.

7 Things No One Tells You About Your Fifties

The only thing more talked about on women’s blogs than children is The Change. Somewhere around your fifties, you stop having your period and start…

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7 Simple Ways to Make Stock Photos Look Unique

You can find a whole world of beautiful free stock images on the web these days on sites like Pexels and Pixabay , but sometimes…

A Woman’s Essence • Replanting Trees

Women are like trees. As they grow in years they also grow in their power to provide shelter and to live in full bloom. Some…

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The Birthday • planting lavender

The smell was overwhelming. Not the sharp sting of hospital bleach, as I had expected, but a sickly sweet lavender smell that clung to the…

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Image Optimisation • making the most of your images on social media

When I blog, I usually spend more time finding and formatting a photo than I do writing the post. I pay careful attention to my…

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Dear Survivors • a letter to the women of the Duggar tragedy

Dear Survivors One of my friends once wrote that everyone has at least three disasters and one apocalypse in their lives. I don’t know you,…

the silent treatment

The Silent Treatment • being ignored or being spared?

Every few days I scour the pages of seek.com looking for a job. It is a bit like looking for a date on RSVP. I…

I know what I want

I May Not Know What Every Woman Wants in Bed but I Know What I Want

I’ve been blaming my changing tastes in the bedroom on my midlife hormones, but to be honest, I’ve been this way for a long time. You…

xyz is for the end

XYZ is for The End • #atozchallenge

April is my least favourite month – the month where there are more bad things to remember than good ones. I should have known undertaking…

w is for writing

W is for Writing • #atozchallenge

For a writer, aside from blogging, I haven’t been doing much writing lately. Now that my principle procrastination tool has been taken away from me…

v is for vision

V is for Vision • #atozchallenge

I’ve often wondered if all the hours I spent reading under the blankets with a torch when I was a kid contributed to my bad…

u is for universe

U is for Universe • #atozchallenge

Although I don’t believe in the concept of God as a supernatural being with an interest in the thoughts and action of human beings, I…

t is for trauma

T is for Trauma • #atozchallenge

I read in a book once about the difference between a traumatic event and a terrible one. I’ve spent the last couple of hours trying…

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S is for Sexuality • #atozchallenge

I was taught at church that having sexual desires and/or attracting sexual desire was a sin. They gave it a special name — the lust of…

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R is for Rain • #atozchallenge

It’s been raining since Monday. A low pressure system off the coast has been beating down on us relentlessly, bringing with it winds gusting up…

q-is-for-querulous

Q is for Querulous • #atozchallenge

I‘m not sure if it’s age, rampant hormones, or too much time on my own, but these days I find myself becoming more and more querulous.…

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The Practice of Self Love • #1000speak

Art is a practice, medicine is a practice, and architecture is a practice. Photography, painting, meditation, dance, writing, and yoga is a practice. What makes these particular…

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P is for Piano • #atozchallenge

My childhood pastime of choice was ballet. I started lessons with Miss McAlpine at a studio above a Chinese Restaurant in New Plymouth when I was…

o-is-for-orgasm

O is for Orgasm • #atozchallenge

Unlike other days, it didn’t take me long to come up with a word starting with O. Orgasms are a subject near and dear to…

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N is for Needy • #atozchallenge

It was my husband’s day off and he seemed in a pleasant mood. Mid-morning — late enough for him to be awake and early enough…

m-is-for-memorial

M is for Memorial • #atozchallenge

The 15th April, 2010 was a day not much different to today. The autumn sun had slipped lower in the sky, making the day cool…

l-is-for-longevity

L is for Longevity • #atozchallenge

Before I was married, I spent most of my time sampling a smorgasbord of lovers, without feeling any need to restrict my appetites to only one person. During…

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K is for Kissing • #atozchallenge

When I first met my boyfriend on the street outside my house five years ago, he hugged me and then kissed me on the lips.…

j-is-for-journey

J is for Journey • #atozchallenge

He is walking up the road in front of me, wearing the heavy boots he never took off, black jeans and a backpack slung over…

i-is-for-invisible

I is for Invisible • #atozchallenge

Women of a certain age complain loudly about being invisible. They report being ignored in shops and restaurants, eyes glancing past them as though they…

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H is for Harmony • #atozchallenge

A long, long time ago, before many of you were born, Coca-Cola screened a television advertisement featuring the song, “I’d Like To Teach the World to Sing…

g-is-for-gender-roles

G is for Gender Roles • #atozchallenge

As soon as the taxi dropped me at home, I telephoned my mother to let her know I was safe and sound. “How long were…

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F is for Fat • #atozchallenge

When I decided to enter a body-building competition in my forties, there was something the trainers and seasoned competitors forgot to tell me. They forgot…

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E is for Excommunication • #atozchallenge

The pastor stared at his hands as if he were avoiding looking at me. “Are you sleeping with him?” he asked. I wondered for a…