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If you are a woman who has reached a point in her life where she no longer follows the rules, then you are in the right place.

In this small corner of the internet, we believe all women are beautiful, interesting, important and sexually empowered to live however we want. We are too young to know better and old enough to not give a fuck.

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Swim • an Unholy Baptism

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How an Altar Boy Became the Other Man

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Modern Dating Etiquette • The Ten Commandments

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The Secret to Making a Modest Living Online

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A Valentine’s Day Dirge

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How to Survive Rejection Without Losing Your Mind

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The 10 Kinds of Men You Will Date after 40

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the beauty of imperfection DIY

The Beauty of Imperfection • a spot of DIY

I have owned these bedside tables since the 1980’s. I bought them in natural pine, but soon painted them black to match the waterbed(!) I had at the…