Lately I have been thinking a lot about sex… What’s it for again? What’s the point? I have totally lost any reason to do it. I feel like women have been brainwashed into believing that we should want to do “it” and if we don’t then there is something wrong with us and you better find some tricks to spice it up or talk yourself into it… Yeah okay. But why? Just to keep a man’s ego intact? That’s all I can come with. And yes it is wrecking my relationship. But I need more than to just want to make him happy and keep him agreeable to want to do it. I guess I want to want to do it… But can’t find any reasons to want to do it.
When I first read this email someone sent me, I admit, I flinched. And then I remembered that I used to feel like that too.
Lucky for me, my ex-husband didn’t want it that much. I’d only have to ‘do my duty’ once every couple of months. But I didn’t really see the point. If I felt like an orgasm (which wasn’t very often) I could get it done quicker and better by myself.
But these days things are different. I adore sex – with no climax; with one, two, three; or with so many I can’t determine where one ends and the next begins. Sweaty, urgent sex or slow, lazy sex. In the bed, on the couch, and on a deserted beach.
If you’re talking about just the physical act of sexual intercourse devoid of anything else, then unless it’s your preferred method for achieving an orgasm, then there might be little point in it.
But sex is more than what’s described in Biology text books. Sex is an art, not a science.
Sex is the highest expression of intimacy
The word intimate means to make known. To be intimate with another human being is to expose your true self without holding anything back. It means being naked physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
And the point of making yourself known is to discover and remember that who you are at your essence is beautiful, desirable and loveable.
Sex is the purest expression of love
Sex is also the purest expression of love between two people. Being willing to reveal your true self, surrendering to the moment and connecting heart-to-heart is how love grows and stays strong. I love my partner so much that I want to get inside his skin. Sex is how I express how I feel about him.
If you’re willing to be present during sex, the result is connectedness on a primal level. It is intoxicating when you let it be. — Melanee
Sex is the art of giving
At the heart of sexual intimacy is two people giving themselves to each other. It’s a man who gets turned on by giving his woman pleasure more than by receiving it himself. It’s a woman who will forget all of her expectations of how a perfect relationship should be and instead simply surrender to her passion. There’s no withholding, no mind games and no agenda. Engaging in sex means giving yourself away.
Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means. — Leo Buscaglia
Sex is a drug
(The point of sex is) to let all your headspace go and enjoy something that is fabulous. — Michelle
Good sex brings pleasure that can be experienced no other way. The rush of physical and emotional enjoyment lasts long after the encounter ends and spills over into the rest of your life. It’s like a drug that makes you feel invincible and the world becomes full of wonderful possibilities.
It’s like I lose all sense of being a single human being and become part of the whole fabric of the Universe. The edges of my body blur and melt into him, into the room, and out into the world. It is the most important thing I can do for myself, for my partner and for my relationships outside of the bedroom.
The point of sex is to bring you closer to yourself, to connect with the person you love, to give yourself away and to experience exquisite pleasure. That kind of sex brings release, relief, joy and love into your life. That kind of sex most definitely has a point!
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