I‘ve been thinking a lot about sex lately. Seriously, since my last post I’ve been reading and researching why women end up with a lack of sexual desire in a relationship and how to fix it.
If you’re one of those women who loves their boyfriend or husband — he’s a good friend, father and provider — but that ache for him has long since gone …
Here’s the bad news …
You can’t fix it.
If you’re a women who has no sexual desire for your boyfriend or husband, there’s no magic pill, no morning affirmation, no five simple steps that will fix it. You can’t change the way you feel about someone just because you want to.
Sexual desire is an emotional urge to connect physically with someone who attracts you. If the attraction isn’t there any more, I can’t help you get it back.
It sucks. Hard.
It breaks my heart.
The only person who can make you fall in love again is your partner. Your feelings are totally dependent on what he says, does and how he looks.
So to all my women readers, I’m sorry. He has to change [or go back to the person he used to be when you first met] for it to work.
For the handful of men who read this blog, I have so much I want to say. Curiously, it comes back to your head, your heart and your health. There are so many things your mother never taught you about women … but let’s save that for another time…
For now, I’m interested in what the ladies think.
Ladies … what’s the one thing you wished your partner did differently that would make you unable to keep your hands off him? Let me know in the comments (anonymously if you wish).