The pastor stared at his hands as if he were avoiding looking at me. “Are you sleeping with him?” he asked. I wondered for a moment if I should lie and tell him no. But lying was as much of a sin as fornication. Maybe it was less of a sin. I wasn’t sure anymore.… Read More
You, who are approaching the end of your fertile years, hear the call of the sea.
You ache for the cool water to ease the hot blush on your face, to soften your dry elbows and erase the lines around your eyes.
This morning I woke to the news that I was dead. But unless I had somehow become Susie Salmon in Lovely Bones, narrating the story of my death from the afterlife, it wasn’t me. It was someone else who shared my name.
Today I learned something new about relationships. I learned that as we age, sometimes our bodies don’t do what we would like them to any more. Illness, both mental and physical, along with the medications we have to take to stay healthy, can interfere with both our sex drive and our ability to perform.
A photographic exhibition by Dutch photographer Erwin Olaf called Mature shows a series of older women in classic pin-up poses. These photos have stirred up the full range of positive and negative emotions in both men and women. For me, as maturity approaches at a rapid rate, I worry that I’ll reach the point where I’m no longer… Read More
One of the things that worries about me about online dating sites, is their emphasis on finding your perfect match. Compatibility, according to them, is finding someone as similar to you as possible. I believe this approach is flawed. Opposites Attract One of the many reasons relationships break down, is because sexual attraction seems to… Read More
Even though my boyfriend is in another country, he still managed to send me a dozen long stemmed red roses. He’s good like that. I’m posting the photo here so I’ll always have the memory even after the flowers die.
As well as being an actual widow, I have become a work widow. My boyfriend works in other cities and other countries more than he is home. I am often left by myself in an empty house.
My boyfriend has a wandering eye. When a young girl walks down to the sea in her skimpy bikini, his gaze rests on her firm, lithe, unwrinkled body. I’m going to be fifty on my next birthday, my body is curvy and soft, I have stretch marks and cellulite — I have every reason to be jealous.
(1) Women have sexual power that increases as we age (2) Curves are sexy (3) Your longings are valid (4) Your breasts are the right shape (5) You can have three different types of orgasms
Sex is the opposite of death and transforms us from merely existing to truly living and breathing our divinity.