Jeremy and I used to be in love. He was handsome, funny and charming. But people grow apart and things change. We broke up as elegantly as we could. We weren’t good for each other so we went our separate ways. I knew that there were other women that Jeremy would be perfect for, just… Read More
In the interest of not announcing scale numbers the internet, people talk about wanting to be at their “happy” weight. “I’m not at my happy weight” or “I’m 10 pounds over my happy weight” or another variation on the theme. I disagree with the idea that a particular weight can make you “happy”. Do people really believe… Read More
When you decide to give up the mental torment over your body, it is hard to think of a different way to reach the body of your dreams without dieting and exercise. Most people advise you just to stop cold turkey, but I know how hard that is. Dieting and the resulting blow outs are… Read More
People get quite heated over the terms we use to describe our relationship with food. It is like the label on a religion. Everyone is acknowledging a higher power, but we fight over whether it is God, Buddha, Mohamed, Jesus, the Universe, Spirit or the magic fairies at the bottom of the garden [which is where… Read More
It’s easy to think that I’ve got it all together. My last binge was in 2009. In the last six months I have lost 10 of the 15 kilos that I put on when I gave up dieting. I think that I’m better. I think I’ve recovered. But things have gone awry. It all started… Read More
My husband and I were married for fifteen years. The passion had long ago disappeared from our relationship (if it had ever really been there at all). We were lucky if we had sex once every three months. In the beginning I blamed it on the Depo Provera I was using for contraception. After I… Read More
This blog is not about me. You see, I’ve more or less conquered the demons of my eating disorder and I’ve moved on. I no longer exercise to purge the “bad” food I ate yesterday. I don’t diet or count calories in order to stay at a magic number on the scales. I am not… Read More
Intuitive Eating makes no sense if you think about it with your logical brain. Many a skeptic has pointed out that if left to our own devices, we would eat crappy food and never budge from the couch. They assert that if you take away the rules and the discipline, our human nature will always… Read More
It’s no secret that I love chocolate. Most of the time I eat ‘no sugar’ chocolate and protein bars which satisfy my cravings. In fact, I haven’t had real chocolate for more than six months. But I’ve been craving a Mars Bars for days (PMT), and tonight I decided to honour that craving, confident that… Read More
When it comes to achieving a fit and healthy body that I feel comfortable in, I started at the point of absolute belief. This is like those who believe in a “one way only” religion. My thinking was dominated by “either/or” logic. I believed that the only way to lose weight and keep it off… Read More
According to them [the Food Police], you have to eat breakfast each morning or you won’t be able to think, you will crash your metabolism, you’ll binge later in the day, and you’ll have no energy. Luckily, Intuitive/Mindful/Fuck it Eating #101 says the only time you eat is when you are physically hungry (and sometimes… Read More
Simone says she is fit and healthy. “I always eat healthy food and stay within my calorie limit for the day. I’m running the City to Surf in August so I get up and train for at least an hour every morning before breakfast. The diet I’m on at the moment lets me have a cheat day… Read More
When I gave up starving/bingeing and excessive exercise in 2009 and embarked on learning Intuitive Eating, I only wanted one thing. I wanted to be lean and healthy without having to restrict what I ate, exercise to exhaustion and obsess about my food and body constantly. My faith in Intuitive Eating was fledgling, because even… Read More