Why a relapse means you’re following your dreams
When you have a disordered behaviour (like disordered eating or substance abuse) you use it to cope with stress.
Tag Archives: eating disorder recovery
Self-love is not the answer
The problem is we believe self-love is the answer, the goal, the destination and the meaning of life. It’s not.
[Guest Post] The Sex
I waited almost 25 years to have sex. I decided to have sex with my first boyfriend eight weeks shy of my 25th birthday. I didn’t hurt. It wasn’t fantastic. It was just … whatever.
What if there was no outcome, no result, no goal?
What if I went to the gym just because I liked going to the gym? Were there good things about training I had overlooked in the past? Could I enjoy it for its own sake rather than as a means to an end?
The Lie of Self-Love
The self-love movement tells us when we love ourselves we feel good about ourselves. We like what we see in the mirror, we stop beating ourselves up and we take great care of ourselves all the time. I’m here to tell you that’s a lie.
Up Close and Personal with My Idol + What the Fuck do I ask her?
My most favourite famous person ever has agreed for me to interview her for my humble little blog. I’m almost peeing my pants.And I’m petrified. I have no idea what to ask her. So I came up with a plan.
An Exercise Bulimic Goes to the Gym
Getting dressed is the first step. A pair of stretchy legging with enough substance to hold me in. A sports bra that still fits and a singlet with built in support. I have boobs now that need restraining. I put on my socks and sneakers. I look in the mirror and ignore the judging voice that says I look so much bigger than the last time I wore these clothes.
New Year’s Resolutions ~ are you setting yourself up for failure?
The lure of dieting is never far away. Is resolving to lose weight in 2012 the next step in my relationship with my body or a recipe for disaster. How can I tell if this is what I really want?
Tired of stupid unrealistic self help babble?
The Love Matrix e-book is written exactly like my blog posts ~ only way longer and much more personal than anything I’ve ever revealed before. The only way to get your hands on it is to trust me with your email address.
10 Strategies to Curb Your Holiday Eating*
or how to hold on to your authentic self in the midst of the kids being home from school, being stuck with your husband 24/7 and having to visit your family who are always so vocal about how you look.
I need your advice (please)
Over the past several months I’ve talked with a lot of you about what you’re struggling with. You’ve told me that you sometimes feel like you’re not good enough, that the fear of failure paralyses you and stops you from doing the things you love, and that you’re afraid others will find you lacking in some terrible way if you reveal your true thoughts and feelings.
Why the goal of *losing weight* is fundamentally flawed
Please don’t set yourself the goal of “losing weight” because it’s a fundamentally flawed idea. Choose instead to give love, receive love and be love and the shape of your body won’t matter.
Why changing your life will make things worse
There’s a curious phenomenon that happens when you decide to do something different. It is rarely spoken about other than in hushed voices or tearful complaints. When you start off doing something new, all hell breaks loose.