Modern Sexual Etiquette • The Ten Commandments
In the world of modern sex and relationships, it’s difficult to follow the rules if you don’t know what they are. Are you a well-mannered lover?
Tag Archives: dating
Why I’ll Never Be a Sex Coach & Why You Don’t Need One
Sex and relationship coaches are a dime a dozen. They have slick websites, gorgeously styled graphics and flattering head-shots. They are usually one of those beautiful people who could probably still look attractive after being drenched in an unexpected rain storm and then falling in a muddy puddle. Although I don’t fit the ‘beautiful people’ category, I have… Read More
Your Sexual Personality Type™ • take the quiz
One of the pillars of a good relationship is sexual compatibility. But when you’re in the early stages of meeting someone, it is sometimes awkward or uncomfortable to bring up the subject of sexual preferences. I started thinking what it would be like if we were able to express our Sexual Personality Type™ in the… Read More
10 Reasons Why You Should Have Sex on the First Date
There is an article doing the rounds that urges people (the author is surprisingly a man) to wait before they have sex with someone new. Everyone is entitled to their preferences but I’m not known for my patience. I met my boyfriend on a late summer’s night five years ago. Before that night, we had emailed, chatted… Read More
Online Dating • the First Date
It was late and I was just going to bed when I received an email from Jen. The subject was “HELP” with a million exclamation marks following it. I couldn’t ignore it. She was in another time zone and just starting her day. “Your dating profile advice was too good,” she wrote. “I’ve got a date tonight… Read More
Internet Dating • The Myth of the Perfect Match
One of the things that worries about me about online dating sites, is their emphasis on finding your perfect match. Compatibility, according to them, is finding someone as similar to you as possible. I believe this approach is flawed. Opposites Attract One of the many reasons relationships break down, is because sexual attraction seems to… Read More
How to Write an Online Dating Profile • The Finale
If you don’t want someone to kiss you, hold you, and ravish you so completely that you forget your own name, then internet dating is probably not for you. So from here on in I’m assuming you’re up for a bit of sexy time.
How to Write an Online Dating Profile • The Middle
It turns out that most women want pretty much the same thing — a man who is good-looking, intelligent, funny, baggage free, financially stable, emotionally available, socially brilliant and geographically nearby. To be honest, we’re all looking for perfection.
How to Write an Online Dating Profile • The Opening
My fundamental approach to profile writing is to show not tell. This means demonstrating who you are by what you DO.
How to Write an Online Dating Profile • The Headline
Let’s face it – online dating can be a nightmare. Your dating profile either gets attention from the wrong type of person, or gets totally ignored. Sometimes you doubt anyone is going to love you again. But it’s not you, it’s your profile. If your profile is sending the wrong message, then that gorgeous, fascinating, almost perfect partner is… Read More
Polycurious – Polywhat? – Poly Put the Kettle On …
I’ve been thinking about the concept of unconditional love and transparency in a relationship. What if there was a workable alternative to monogamy that nurtured everyone involved rather than destroyed them?
The four pillars of a good relationship + a dodgy number five
The first time around I chose the wrong man. I didn’t know it at the time because I was young and believed things about relationships that turned out to be untrue. In hindsight, I can see why my husband and I were never going to work. An intimate relationship with another person rests on four… Read More
How to Have Your Own Love Story
Sometimes I still feel like pinching myself — this love affair with the Duck Fish Man seems like a dream. Once I wrote : There is a chance, still, that I could find that person who simply makes it hard to breathe. The way his energy fills the room, the unspoken kindness in his eyes,… Read More