Return to the Place of Thinner Peace


From: The 4 Day Win by Martha Beck

Stage 2 ~ Contemplation ~ Return to the Place of Thinner Peace

The fear based parts of your brain are many, varied and ancient. Alarm responses, particularly the fear of attack and starvation, improve our chance of survival in a wild state where hunger and being hunted are major threats.

The ability to let go of all fear and surrender to a state of bliss, is a much rarer brain state. Advanced contemplatives (Watchers) have always taught that an enlightened mind is one where fear, conflict and self-destructive behaviour are greeted with a willingness to return to a peaceful state.

Three Breaths

When you find yourself stressed, tense and veering towards anxiety eating, take time out for three breaths. Long, deep breaths. You can panic again as soon as the third exhalation has left your lungs but you probably won’t.

Treasure Chests

Imagine your brain as a room filled with various pirate type wooden chests – these are your memories all labelled by emotional similarity. Some of the chests contain fear, lack and abuse but there are others that contain happy memories – falling in love, sunrise swims, winning an award.

The treasure chest technique simply requires that you close the hurtful chests and open the happy ones. It doesn’t mean you ignore and repress the painful things, it is just a way of changing your focus. Visualise going over to the chest that says “Laughter” or “Beauty”, open the box, take out the memory and recall it vividly. Write down 10 of these types of memories and when the good feelings rush over you anchor it by squeezing your pinky finger.

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Each day for the next 4 days , I’ll spend 10 minutes deliberately replaying positive memories in great detail, while breathing deeply and squeezing my left pinky finger in my right hand

Did You Know

Your can change your state of mind or mood easily using the techniques of anchoring. This means you can, for example, stay calm and relaxed whatever other people are doing or however provoking they may be.

You do this by anchoring states of mind so you can fire the anchor and establish the state instantly.

Anchors are stimuli that call forth states of mind – thoughts and emotions. For example, touching a knuckle of the left hand could be an anchor. Some anchors are involuntary. So the smell of bread may take you back to your childhood. A tune may remind you of a certain person. A touch can bring back memories and the past states. These anchors work automatically and you may not be aware of the triggers.

Establishing an anchor means producing the stimuli (the anchor) when the resourceful state is experienced so that the resourceful state is pared to the anchor. For example, touching the knuckle of the left hand when the resourceful state is experienced to pair the two events.

Activating or firing the anchor means producing the anchor after it has been conditioned so that the resourceful state occurs.For example, touching the knuckle of the left hand after the anchor has been established so that this action produced the resourceful state. ~ NLP Anchoring

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