Polycurious means I’m curious about polyamory or non-monogamy.
Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly], meaning “many” or “several”, and Latin amor, “love”) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
Often abbreviated as poly, is often described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy.” There is an emphasis on ethics, honesty, and transparency all around is widely regarded as the crucial defining characteristic. ~ Wikipedia
I’ve been thinking about the concept of unconditional love and transparency in a relationship. What if there was a workable alternative to monogamy that nurtured everyone involved rather than destroyed them?
In Friendship with God, Neale Donald Walsch writes about God’s love — loving all of us non-exclusively — as a model for our own relationships. When we eliminate need, expectation and jealousy then we are left with unconditional love.
I’m not really doing this justice, the ideas are so different to how I’ve been conditioned to think about love I’m struggling to articulate it.
Can you love more than one person at a time?
Is sexual intimacy the same as love? Does love require sexual intimacy?
Is monogamy a kind of sacrifice to prove how much you love someone (forsaking all others and all that)?
I haven’t fallen in love with another man and I’m not wanting permission to cheat. I haven’t got someone lined up already to have sex with. I don’t want group sex. I just wonder about attraction and connection with more than one human being. Sometimes I feel like I’ve so much love to give that I should share it around …?
I don’t know. I’m making a mess of this.
All I know is that if the world ended tomorrow, the one thing I would do on my last day on earth is have sex with ALL THE MEN and perhaps ALL THE WOMEN too. This makes me wonder if I’m shutting down a part of who I am.
The good thing is I don’t have to panic about this. I am beyond happy in my current relationship. I’m just curious about other ways to love. Polycurious.
Tell Me Your Story
Have you ever loved two men at the same time and wished you could have both of them in your life?
Have you ever thought about polyamory?
Do you have a non-monogamous relationship?
Is there a book/website I should read?