This is what got me thinking …
Normal eating is going to the table hungry and eating until you are satisfied.
It is being able to choose food you like and eat it and truly get enough of it—not just stop eating because you think you should.
Normal eating is being able to give some thought to your food selection so you get nutritious food, but not being so wary and restrictive that you miss out on enjoyable food.
Normal eating is giving yourself permission to eat sometimes because you are happy, sad or bored, or just because it feels good.
Normal eating is mostly three meals a day, or four or five, or it can be choosing to munch along the way.
It is leaving some cookies on the plate because you know you can have some again tomorrow, or it is eating more now because they taste so wonderful.
Normal eating is overeating at times, feeling stuffed and uncomfortable. And it can be undereating at times and wishing you had more.
Normal eating is trusting your body to make up for your mistakes in eating.
Normal eating takes up some of your time and attention, but keeps its place as only one important area of your life.
In short, normal eating is flexible. It varies in response to your hunger, your schedule, your proximity to food and your feelings.**
So now I am wondering if the principals of IE/inner wisdom eating are just another set of eating rules to be followed. I still schedule my eating to 3 main meals and feel a little disappointed if I snack or have dessert, I feel bad if I keep eating past satisfied just because something tastes so goddamn good, and I don’t give myself permission to eat for emotional comfort.
I still have the energy and nutritional value of food firmly entangled with the amount of fat I am carrying. Calories are still controlling me whether I count them or not.
How do I stop believing that the amount of calories I eat determines how I look when I have concrete physical evidence that if I eat less and exercise more, I am thinner? How can I believe that my size and shape is created by my thoughts and feelings as well as my actions?
Feeling Good? – Not So Much
It feels like I am failing on all fronts – I am not ‘watching what I eat’ and part of me still believes that I should which makes me feel bad. Thoughts, feelings and actions are in conflict.
Even the whole “what would I like instead” thing isn’t working so well. Thinking of what I would like instead just highlights how far away from it I am, and how much more work needs to be done. Again with the feeling bad.
If the Law of Attraction is true, then no wonder I’m not getting what I want (a lean, fit, healthy body effortlessly and easily) ~ my vibrations have gone to shit.
Wouldn’t It Be Nice If …
The ultimate aim is to feel good now so that I attract more good things into my life. I stumbled across this exercise that might prove helpful. It is called “Wouldn’t It Be Nice If …” By tripping off into magic land where all my dreams can come true, I am making myself feel better which is the whole point of the exercise. Truth or lies doesn’t matter, it is all about feeling good now.
Wouldn’t it be nice …
- if my excess weight just melted away overnight like the fluid on my ankles does
- if it was all water and not fat
- if I lean, fit and healthy was exactly the way I look now
- if I was one of those people who could eat what they wanted and never gain weight
- if I genuinely forgot to think about the ‘value’ of the food I eat
- if the amount of exercise I did made no difference to my size or shape
- if my inner transformation was visible from the outside
- if I could wear my skinny clothes
- if a miracle happened
- if the power of intention changed my world
- if I could be healthy, happy and content as well as in peak physical condition
- if I could stop over thinking all this shit.
I Need Your Help
What do you think? Is Intuitive Eating just another thinly disguised weight loss diet plan? Have you mastered Normal Eating? Do you wish I would just relax already??
Did You Know
- Eating normally is more than freeing yourself from food: it’s adding trust, an inner knowing that you’ll care for your body excellently in your food choices. It’s trusting that if you give yourself permission to have dessert, you’ll still eat vegetables.
Food obsession is overwhelming, because you face it several times a day, every day; every time you eat, want to eat, or think about eating. Remove this obstacle from your life, and I guarantee you’ll feel your spirit soar. You’ll be free and clear to redirect the energy you devoted to food towards the deeper dreams, goals, and aspirations that abide within. ~ Rules of Normal Eating
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- **Copyright © 2009 by Ellyn Satter. Published at www.EllynSatter.com. For more eating competently (and for research backing up this advice), see Ellyn Satter’s Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family: How to Eat, How to Raise Good Eaters, How to Cook, Kelcy Press, 2008. Also see www.EllynSatter.com/shopping to purchase books and to review other resources.
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