Deep down inside, what is important to you? What to you want your life to stand for? What sort of human do you want to be?
Knowing the answer to these questions will clarify your own personal value system and help you make decisions about what achievements matter to you.
[for this to make sense you need to do the “I wish…” exercise first]
Take your list of five wishes and with each one determine what value(s) it represents in your life.
Scan the values in the picture above. You may find that while most values have little or no significance to you (and some may even seem negative to you), there are those values that just jump out and call to you, and you feel, “Yes, this value is part of me.”
Here’s how it works for me
- I wish my memoir was published = AUTHENTICITY & CREATIVITY
- I wish I could earn my living doing what I love = INDEPENDENCE & LEADERSHIP
- I wish I could always keep studying and learning = INTELLIGENCE & LEARNING
- I wish I had even more passion, (self) love and sex in my life = PASSION & SELF-CARE
- I wish I could have more holidays on the beach = SPIRITUALITY
You can rank them in order of importance. Mine are …
Or you can take a moment to consider which ones you are doing well in and which need a little more work. Make the ones you want to focus on a higher priority.
Now that you know what really matters to you and the most important values in your life you can make decisions based on whether your behaviour increases this character trait or detracts from it. This clarifies your long-term goals, your short-term projects and your daily choice about how to act in any situation.
How much of what I’m doing gets me closer to who I am, and how much takes me farther away?
Everyone will have a different set of values. Please share yours below.
PS: If you would like to dig deeper into this area download The Values Intention Worksheet by clicking here.