In the interest of not announcing scale numbers the internet, people talk about wanting to be at their “happy” weight.
“I’m not at my happy weight” or “I’m 10 pounds over my happy weight” or another variation on the theme.
I disagree with the idea that a particular weight can make you “happy”. Do people really believe they’ll be happy once they see a lower number on the scale? That’s not how it works. If you are not happy now at the weight you are today, then you won’t be happy when you see a smaller number.
You might be pleased, proud or temporarily delighted that your white-knuckle self-discipline has delivered a result, but you won’t be guaranteed happiness.
Happiness isn’t something we seek, another possession to be added to our list of things we don’t have, or something outside of ourselves that we chase.
Happiness is following your joy. It’s a state of being not becoming.
And when we choose to live each day in joy we:
- have a compass to located ourselves in our life
- live an authentic life that embraces more of who we are
- navigate according to our values
- are in sync with our natural essence
- are empowered to follow our bliss
Does a number on a scale give you any of that? Do you have to wait until you’re the perfect size before you can be happy?
The only way for you to heal your relationship with food (which is the reason why your weight is above what you consider to be ideal) is to be happy right now.
Choose happiness. How happy did you decide to be today? How happy have you decided to be in your lifetime?
Instead of focusing on what you want to have (a lean, sexy body or something along those lines), ask yourself what you want to be, to give, and what lessons, gifts and experiences you want to receive.
Pursuing your “happy” weight will guarantee you never get there. Happiness is here and now because you are here.
How do you choose happiness? You make love more important than anything else. Happiness is an attribute of love and love is your true power.
Do you have a “happy” weight?
Does not being there make you unhappy?
Is it possible to be happy no matter what weight you are?