Let’s face it – online dating can be a nightmare. Your dating profile either gets attention from the wrong type of person, or gets totally ignored. Sometimes you doubt anyone is going to love you again.
But it’s not you, it’s your profile. If your profile is sending the wrong message, then that gorgeous, fascinating, almost perfect partner is not going to notice you.
But never fear — I’ve done the online dating research for you and I’m here to share what I learned.
My time spent internet dating was short and sweet. It took me exactly two and a half weeks to find the man of my dreams. Within two days I had made it to number #3 in the top 100 women in my age group.
None of this was because I’m exceptionally stunning or unique. My internet dating career was successful because of my profile.
What I stumbled upon accidentally, turned out to be my greatest asset. I did one simple thing to make me stand out from the crowd.
I sold the benefits, not the features.
Instead of presenting a laundry list of who I was and what I wanted, I created a story about what my partner’s life would be like with me in it.
Item #1 • The Headline
Most dating sites give you a place to write a heart stopping headline. This is your first impression — the cover of the book, the opening sentence, the hook.
Here are a few examples from current profiles on a popular site:
- Looking for someone special
- Looking for that unspoken connection, my best friend first and foremost
- Genuine caring fun happy
- Calm and resilient
- Not really looking for love right now, but some entertainment would be great
- I am looking for my best mate, is that you?
Now be honest, do any of these headlines intrigue you, or make you want to know more about the person? Not really.
My dating profile led with a quote instead of a position description. A quote works on more than one level. It has content (what the quote actually says), it has tone (beautiful, funny, sarcastic, solemn), it reveals something important about you in relation to the author (a Homer Simpson quote says something different to an Anais Nin quote), and it attracts someone who has a similar cultural or literary taste (again Homer Simpson vs Anais Nin).
Chose a quote about love because after all that’s what you’re here for. If you don’t have any ideas, look at a Pinterest board like this one. Even though I’ve just gone on about the source of quote, don’t worry too much if it doesn’t have an author — it will still do the work for you.
Here are some ideas:
- The earth has music for those who listen
- Chemistry is you touching my mind and setting my body on fire
- Hearts are wild creatures, that’s why our ribs are cages
- Her mind is deliciously improper, and her body an aphrodisiac — Albert Cano
- I meant to behave, but there were too many other options
- I don’t just want your heart. I want your flesh, your skin, your blood, your bones, your voice, your thoughts, your pulse, and most of all your fingerprints, everywhere — Isobel Thrilling
What do you think? Any better?
Pay attention to your headline — find an interesting, flirty, funny, sexy, mysterious, or cheeky quote. Surprise your potential date and make him want to know more.
What quote would you use for your internet dating profile? (Even if you’re well and truly off the market, have a go — it’s a lot of fun)
Do you want to know what my quote was? It’s in the comments.