I asked you what it was that you struggled with in my last post.
I am deeply honoured that many of you chose to reveal your deepest fears to me and the readers who gather here. Thank you. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everything all right for you. But my wand is missing. I think it fell down the back of the couch or the next door neighbour’s dog ate it.
As no men left a response I’m going to make an assumption about the women who visit here. At the root of our problems we are all frightened that we aren’t good enough —
we think we are not successful enough (I need the right career)
we think we are not caring enough (I’m always giving until there is nothing left)
we think we are not attractive enough (I need to be fit/healthy/slender/younger)
we think we are not loveable enough (I’ll always be alone, my family wouldn’t love the real me)
It is not enough for me to tell you that none of that is true. It is not enough for you to know that you’re doing the best that you can. None of that makes a difference when the voice in your head whispers to you just before you go to sleep that you need to be richer, more nurturing, more beautiful and more loved than you are now.
Every woman can discover that she is all she needs to be by living from her heart. But why is that so difficult?
It’s difficult because we are dealing with intangible things like thoughts and emotions. How do you tame the wind … how do you know when it’s been tamed?
So this time my question is different. If I was looking at a version of you who had all her issues sorted what would I see that would convince me that you knew that you were good enough? What does a woman completely comfortable in her own skin do, have or say.
Think of all those women you admire/envy. What do they do, have or say that convinces you they are worth aspiring to?
It’s not a trick question. I’m not here to point out what you want is something you already have because that isn’t true. Instead, I’m asking you to describe your perfect outcome in concrete terms.
So let me know in the comments below. Please describe the woman you want to be in terms of what she has, does or says. Oh and let me know if I’ve got it entirely wrong and your struggle isn’t with not feeling good enough after all.
PS: Why am I doing this? … I’m tracking your present state and your future state and working on a map that will get you from here to there. There’s no use me creating a way to get from Sydney to Brisbane if you are in Perth and want to go to Adelaide.