The House

the house - when what we have built is falling down

The life we have built on our beliefs and our values has taken years of work and effort. It is a beautiful house we are proud to live in.

One day, someone or something comes along and points a harsh bright spotlight on our house. We suddenly notice that the walls are barely standing and are full of cracks. The house we thought would take us through to our future is now in danger of collapsing.

When we realise that repair is out of the question, we are faced with building another house from scratch. The thought of starting all over again is exhausting and overwhelming. We cannot contemplate the hard work it will require so we sit confused and lost on the floor and simply stare at the walls.

What Would We Like Instead?

There is no question that we need to move into a new house that is solid, stable and able to withstand the ravages of the weather. That fact is inescapable. We can vividly imagine a better house but the amount of work required seems too big, too complicated and we don’t even know where to start.

Is There Another Way?

There is more than one way to get a new house. What if you won one in a lottery, someone left you a house in their will, or someone simply gave you a house they no longer needed? What if all you had to do was pack up our suitcase and a few personal items and just move in?

It’s the What That’s Important Not the How

When I realise my old beliefs and values no longer serve me, I can easily spend hours daydreaming about my future – a future which I don’t know how to create.

I have to simply trust that life will bring me what I need when I need it. I do not need to struggle, strive, or do anything I don’t want to do, I just need faith that my transformation is under way and will be completed in the fullness of time.

And suddenly, when I let go of my need to figure it all out and control the process, the changes come easily, beautifully and magically.

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About Katie Paul

Embracing my midlife sexy while exploring modern love & relationships • Devoted to all things beautiful • Master of Arts in creative writing & non-fiction writing • Join the hottest group on FB → Sassy Midlife Women

2 thoughts on “The House

  1. This was very timely to read Katie. Since the passing of my mom I have been doing some real soul searching. I knew I wasn’t leading the life I wanted to lead. I had no idea what life I wanted to lead, and I still don’t, but for the longest time I ran around searching, always searching. Now, finally, I am starting to sit in my life and allow myself to move through its waters, going with the ebb and flow. I also know that my life is going to take on a different more meaningful (to me) direction than the one I have led for the past 20 or so years. It is overwhelming to think of starting all over again, but it is also very exciting xx

    1. Like that quote I found the other day – honour the space between ‘no longer’ and ‘not yet’.
      It’s a weird place to be in, but all you can do is be present and wait.

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