From: The 4 Day Win by Martha Beck
Stage 2 ~ Contemplation ~ EASY vs CALM
In order to be a thin person, you have to exchange your belief in the EASY weight loss myth with the CALM reality.
EASY stands for External Authority System : You
CALM stands for Compassionate, Authoritative Learning : Me
You’ll lose weight when you realise that kindly attending to your own internal needs and wants, both physical and emotion, is the only way to stay healthy.
You are the ultimate authority on you. No one else can ever claim that authority, and you cannot give it away, even if you wanted to.
Example
EASY myth : A perfect weight-loss authority source will elimnate the possibility of my breaking the rules.
CALM insight : The only thing that creates total compliance is total dependency. Prisoners and people with total paralysis or extreme illness are the only adults who can’t choose to disobey. Far from creating happiness, the loss of autonomous choice is horrible. It’s the single variable most related to depression and despair. I’m grateful that I have the choice to break the rules of my fitness program, because the alternative is loss of all personal power.
Exercise – Food-Mood-Brood Journal
Look through your thoughts and emotions that fuelled your eating and see if any of them came from the EASY mythology. Reframe them with CALM insights.
Turtle Step
Each day for the next 4 days , I’ll keep a food-mood-brood journal to see what thoughts and emotions are linked to my overeating.
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